Sunday, May 7, 2017

An Open Letter to My 18 Year Old Self: Life, 10 Years After Graduation

The world is at your feet. You've got your whole life ahead of you, Sarah.


You heard these phrases from anyone and everyone often leading up until the day of your high school graduation. However, the white cap and gown you will wear on that day and the words that will be spoken on that stage will soon be but a distant memory. This moment was all you could think about at the time, even though finishing this stage of your academic career practically drained you of almost every ounce of willpower you had left. And you even went to sleep after midnight, something you had managed not to do during most of your high school years (and still earning good grades).

Nevertheless, you did it. You achieved one of the many milestones you will go on to accomplish in your life. This day was just the beginning of your brand new life as an adult, though you didn't fully grasp it at the time. It was going to be exciting and full of adventures. You were going far away to college after all and literally starting a brand new life. Where no one had ever heard your name before or new your parents or any other detail about you. I can't promise you that life after your high school graduation will be easy or that you will always be happy but you will go on to create an amazing and enriching life for yourself. Just you wait and see. (But get to working on this life you want. It won't just magically come to you!)

Sadly, I also can't promise you that, and it's with great sadness I write these words, everyone who sat with you and walked across this very stage with you will still be walking on this Earth 10 years later. I wish I could save you from the disappointment and grief you will experience, but I can't. It's the heartbreaking and stark reality of life. It's so short.

Gorgeous tulips in Lugano, Switerland

Take heart. Though not everyone who was with you at age 18 will be by your side at age 28, you will learn how to live your days to the absolute fullest. You won't always be flying off to a new city for a weekend or exploring a castle or working on an exciting new project. There will be times when you won't want to do anything more than curl up underneath your covers and lay in our bed -somewhere in the world- and watch a TV show series on your laptop or read a book in another language (spoiler alert from the future: yes, you will know how to speak more than two languages by this time in your life -and yes, it's pretty freaking sweet.) But, you know what? It's okay to do these things, too. You are human after all and everyone needs to recharge their batteries once in a while.

A lot of things in your life are unknown at this point but trust in the process. Everything is working together for your good and for your benefit. It takes time and you will be pruned and molded into becoming an amazing, caring and empathetic person. You will blossom into more of who you saw yourself becoming all of your teen years and I think you would not only be proud of her, but you would be in awe of her as well. Do you know what you do on a regular basis a decade from now? I'll tell you.

The young woman you have become speaks up in group discussions. She talks to cute guys and even sits down next to them on public transportation without batting (too much) an eye!  She's not afraid to speak her mind or add her thoughts and ideas to a discussion because she knows her opinion adds value. She travels solo. SOLO. A concept I know is completely foreign to you as you haven't quite left home for the first time yet (which will feel like you're being abandoned just FYI but you'll be over it in two weeks, so don't have a meltdown just yet). I could go on and on about the woman you've become but I'll sum it up in one sentence: she's beautiful inside and out and she's a dearly loved child of God. You have fought for everything you have and are at this moment in time but don't think for a second that you will stop fighting because you have a long road ahead of you. It will all be worth it, though.

These last 10 years of your life zipped by like a high speed train and the next 10 unfortunately won't be slowing down any time soon. Don't let that scare you but rather let it motivate you to make the most of it.

Here's to another beautiful decade of your life. Make every moment count and make a difference in someone else's life. You won't regret it...trust me on this one. ;)

Thursday, July 28, 2016

Not Everyone Lets Travel Change Them

The second of two summer trips to Mexico as a teen and the start of all
my awkward and crazy adventures in many different foreign lands!
(Ensenada, Mexico, 2007)
This month marked ten years since my first international trip and my first time leaving my home country of the United States of America. In mid-July 2006, a group of teens from my high school in Ohio and I boarded an early morning flight to San Diego, California, where we would team up with a local missionary and his family and live out of an old school bus turned RV for the next two and a half weeks, driving around rural parts of Mexico. That trip changed me, broke me and humbled me in ways I didn’t know were possible. I only knew that I would never view travelling and other cultures the same way again. It was no longer something that I would do for pleasure but it instead became a way for me to get to know people from backgrounds that were so vastly different from my own. People who didn’t speak the same language or view the world as I did. It showed me that I am but one person in a huge, diverse and beautiful world. It showed me how insignificant I am but also at the same time just how much of a difference one person can make in the world in which we live.

However, I feel that I am in the minority when it comes to other travelers who are out traipsing across the world as I type. I let travel change me and I am far better off by it to do so. 

If you rush through a city or a country in a hurry, you may miss out
on incredibly unique experiences like this one (a man and his donkey who walk
the Camino de Santiago), Fisterra 2015.
I travel slowly. I learn languages well enough until I feel the words that I speak to my core, to the very depths of my soul. I talk to locals and ask for their advice and recommendations. I want to know where they would go if they were visiting the city for a few short days and not depend on some guidebook or online reviews. I prefer to spend long stretches of time in a city or a country until I form a routine, find a favorite café or the cashiers at the supermarket or local shop owners begin to recognize me and bring me my "usual." Not everyone welcomes this type of slow paced travel and while I would normally say that that’s OK and “to each their own,” a recent travel experience that went sour has forced me to think about the many different ways that you can travel.

Teaching English abroad here in Spain and traveling on the weekends and during paid vacation time have shown me that there are dozens of different types of travelers and an endless amount of personalities that you can meet on the road. I’ve met plenty of wonderful people and I have had so many interesting conversations with people from all over the world in the past decade. I’ve been invited to visit them in their homes to share a meal or join them on a day trip or make plans to do a longer trip to a destination we both would love to experience.

Some of these conversations and times spent with said wonderful people have blossomed into long-lasting friendships. Some of them only lasted for a season and then life forced us to drift apart. Both types of relationships have enriched my life and I am grateful for them.

Sometimes your tour guide comes in the unexpected form of an older, white-haired fisherman
 and shows you exactly how the locals live (Fisterra, Spain, 2014)
On the other hand, life is all about taking the good with the bad. Not every travel experience will be your favorite and make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside when you reflect back on the memories. There will be many that you wish never happened or never turned out the way they did. There will be words you wish you didn't hear or things you wish you never said. Images you wish you could erase from your mind but instead they linger and thankfully some of the details get blurry and they fade away with time. You still can't change your experience and in the future, you will be just as grateful for the bad experiences as you are for the good ones. That is, if you learn from the bad ones and move on from them, first.

I can relate to this as a recent negative travel experience left a bad taste in my mouth and an ache in my heart. Both of these things will fade with time and disappear but the effect it had on my travel style and compassionate, wanderlust-driven heart may last a bit longer. How much longer, I don’t know but perhaps only until I learn from the situation and move on from it without looking back. And until I accept the fact that not everyone experiences travel the same way I do. In a way, it's a hard truth to accept.

If you're reading this and you truly want to get the most out of an experience that you can, follow these guidelines while you travel (and tell me how they changed your trip for you!):

Don't consume travel as if it were a product and then stop using it when it isn’t working for you. Instead, use it as a means to grow as a person and learn from the people you will meet along the way. Each person has their own unique story and perspective on life and if you just stop and get to know someone who's different than you, you will learn simple yet profound lessons.

Don't put unrealistic expectations on everyone you meet and everything you see. Instead, accept people –flaws and all- as they are and try to put yourself in their shoes before you even consider judging them. (In fact, don't judge them.) I’m not perfect and I do not demand perfection from anyone else. Living or traveling abroad is messy and frustrating. If you can work through the problems and the messiness, you won't come back from the experience unchanged.

Not every day is sunshine, on-time flight arrivals, no screaming babies
and knowing exactly where you're going. It's OK. You'll still survive!


Don't simply learn languages just to know the words or be able to ask where the bathroom is. Instead of having head knowledge of one or more languages, let that intellectual understanding move down and settle in your heart. Meet someone whose first language isn't the same as yours. Let them show you their perspective on life! I learn languages so that I can understand another way of thinking and people whose mother tongue is completely different than mine. You may have to learn a new language before you can make friends with someone who would later become your best friend. It happens more often than you think while traveling.


Knowing how to say "hello" in a dozen different languages is fun but it honestly doesn't get you that far in life. (Molins de Rei, Spain, 2015)

Don't take advantage of a culture and place so that only you can benefit from it. I understand that a major part of experiencing other cultures is to learn to give and take –and to be respectful of their customs. Just as one wouldn’t deface a UNESCO World Heritage site, you shouldn’t only come to a place to enjoy the things it has to offer but you should get to know the culture and the people, too. If you want to travel more deeply and let it change you, you should instead prioritize experiences and people over material things and experiences.

Witnessing a sunset on a cool winter's day in the middle of a very rainy season
is priceless. No euros or dollars necessary to see this either! (Santiago de Compostela, Spain, 2015)

After a lot of reflection and dissecting how I personally travel and take experiences in these past couple of weeks, I’ve finally been able to identify what type of person tends to not let travel change them. It’s a type of person that I have been at one point in my own life and the type of person I encounter on the road and would rather pretend doesn’t exist so that I don’t have to speak English to them, haha.

Well, if you consistently do any of those things that I listed above while you travel that I recommend you not to do, I hate to say it but...you are a tourist.

You are not a traveler. You may try to convince yourself and everyone else that you are indeed a traveler with more stamps in your passport than years on this Earth. 


You may have all of those things and appear to be a traveler to the outside world but I think even you will eventually realize the type of "traveler" that you are. There’s no shame in being a tourist from time to time (we all are at some point in our lives) but if that’s the only role you assume in the places that you live, you are sorely missing out on a more fulfilling and enriching travel experience.



Sometimes your own two feet are the single best things that can take you on
an adventure of a lifetime. (Barcelona, Spain, 2015)

If you come to terms with how you can’t always live inside a bubble where everyone speaks your language, everyone knows and follows the customs of your country, then you will have assumed a new role and your perspective will change. You as a person will change and grow because you have voluntarily assumed the role of a traveler. Someone who searches beyond the "top 10 things to do" lists and tries to dig deeper and discover the culture that's shining and bursting forth around them.

If no one has ever forced you to change or rethink the way you live your life and you go all over the world, you won't be able to embrace all the beautiful cultures and people around you. They won't ever change you because you simply won't give them the permission. You choose not to let them past the walls you've built and let them into your life. It's safer and less complicated. Besides, you can easily and quickly continue on your way once you're finished with a place. So, it makes sense, right?


Well, I think it's wrong.

And that, my readers, I believe is the most foolish and saddest decision you can make while traveling.



Traveling is a great way to grow as a person. No two people travel for exactly the same reasons!
(Fisterra, Spain, 2015)

Do you let travelling change you? Why or why not? If yes, how deep do those changes run? Join the discussion below and share your thoughts. I'd love to hear them! 

Saturday, April 30, 2016

Why I Cried When I First Entered the Alhambra Palace


This past February I had the opportunity to visit Granada for an entire weekend thanks to a few days of paid vacation for Entroido (Carnival). I didn't miss much in Galicia as it rained during most of the week that I was gone and a lot of the Carnival activities were postponed or still celebrated but done so in the pouring rain. I wasn't too disappointed that I missed out since I stayed for Carnival the previous year and had a lot of fun checking out the festivities around Ourense, a destination spot for most Carnaval-goers in Galicia.

However, the Galician winter was about to get well underway and I had to escape down to the sun drenched streets of Andalucía and check out Granada.

El Albaicín, a neighborhood that has the most white houses (pueblos blancos) that I´ve ever seen!


Andalucía is the stereotypical image of Spain -- warm and sunny weather, flamenco, bull fighting and an over-abundance of olive oil -- but for me, it's my happy place. Ever since I lived there in 2010 and every time I go back to visit the region, I get so excited yet relaxed at the same time. Something inside me loosens and calms down. A feeling I usually only experience each time I arrive home in Dayton, my hometown. And to me this makes sense. This part of the country - a country that is not my own - has become like another home to me.

And speaking of second homes, Sevilla in particular is like a second home to me and not only because I lived there before. It's because I integrated myself into the culture and made some wonderful lifelong friends in the few short months I was there. It's where I learned how to speak Spanish and, after a lot of hard work and countless headaches, become fluent in it. Where I learned to live and thrive after having experienced a few tough lessons that semester abroad. I came back from those experiences stronger and with a greater appreciation for that region and the Spanish people themselves. And whenever I head back over that way, I'm like a kid on Christmas morning. I can´t sit still nor can I concentrate on anything else. And you definitely can't wipe the ear-to-ear grin off my face or the damper the joy I feel inside when I go.

However, Granada and specifically the Alhambra has been calling my name for the last decade. It was a shame that I never went while I was a student in Sevilla but sometimes life presents you with a second chance and this past February I got mine. And everyone knows that if you plan a trip to Granada you MUST go visit the Alhambra - especially when you're still in your twenties and can get a little bit of a discount on the entrance ticket! ;-)


Two things in particular motivated me to visit Granada and the Alhambra this year instead of putting it off once again. I'll start with one of the reasons that doesn't make me tear up as soon as I think about it for too long, as I'm not as emotionally invested in this one as I am the other one.

First off, at the school I'm working at here in Santiago there is a beautiful little girl who was born blind. Besides noticing that she needs assistance getting to and from her 5th grade classroom to other classrooms and that she uses a special Braille typewriter to complete her homework assignments, she's a normal 11 year old girl. In the beginning when I first started working with her in the art classes I assist, I was nervous around her and I didn't know how to best communicate with her. I got frustrated with myself when I wasn´t relate well to her or when she didn't understand the point of the activity we were doing at the time.

That all changed when I started really paying attention to how she views the world and which senses she uses to best communicate with those around her as she can't rely on her sense of sight. In the beginning I felt sorry for her, to be honest. Especially the first time I came to the realization that she can't see the color purple -my most favorite color in the world- with her own two eyes, no matter how much I desperately want her to see it. It took me some time to accept that she isn´t able to see and that it´s not something that she can change about herself. But, after I learned that she experiences the world best through touch, I began to focus my words and actions around touch whenever I interacted with her. I found this quote from a well-known poem about Granada again and it wasn't until after I met this wonderful little girl that I truly understood its meaning.








"Dale limosnamujer, que no hay en la vida nada, como la pena de ser ciego en Granada.." -Francisco Asís de Icaza (Translation:  Give him alms, woman, there's nothing worse in life than being blind in Granada.)

I ended up getting tired of seeing or hearing this quote as it was mounted on a plaque near a main plaza in the center of the city but I let the words sink into my mind and I mulled it over those few days I was there. The little girl I've gotten to know, Paula, has changed my perspective on life and I am more grateful for my sight now than I ever have been before. She was once someone who made me so nervous to be around but now she brings me so much joy. I love seeing how she sees the world with her hands and she impresses me with her love for extreme sports such as surfing and horseback riding. She actually showed me horses communicate best by touch so she can communicate perfectly with them. In a way, she is more in tune with the world than most people ever are in their lifetimes. She feels the same emotions that most kids her age feel but what's different about her is that she also takes time to absorb experiences and get her hands on them too so to speak.

So, as I made my travel plans for Carnival, I decided that I had to take advantage of going to Granada and while I was there, I had to see the Alhambra. It wasn't as if I would lose my sight any time soon --knock on wood-- but I felt that it was now or never.

Secondly, a terrible start to 2016 was also a big motivator for me to go to Granada and not put it off any longer. I woke up to the news that my oldest cousin, who lived in California, passed away at age 32 from her grueling battle with first breast cancer and then later lung cancer. As the new year drew near, the cancer ravaged her body even more until she went peacefully on the very last day of 2015, surrounded by my mom's family. I cried my eyes out when I awoke to the news and the days following. After a while I pulled myself together. Or as best as I could while living far, far away from my family.


Thoughts and plans I had put off overwhelmed me as I pondered over just how short life truly is. I also wondered if there was a dream place that my cousin had ever wanted to go see in her lifetime. I don't know if there ever was as it was something we hadn't ever talked about before. One place in particular for me stood out and I couldn't dismiss the thought or put it off any longer. I had to see the Alhambra before I die. It was an item on my bucket list that I had yet to fulfill and there was no time like this year to cross it off. And not only would I do the trip for myself but I would do it for these two special people in my life who have taught me so much in such a short time. I would go for Paula, a joyous little girl who may never be able to see the world as I do and for my cousin Jenna, a beautiful and kind soul who left this world far too soon. I would go for them and I would enjoy every single sight, smell, sound, taste and touch along the way.


Now, getting myself to Granada and not running into any road blocks along the way was the only challenge that lay ahead of me. I had the burning desire to go and I had my reasons for going firmly in my mind. The only things that could slow me down or hinder me from going at all were technology and the various modes of transportation that I needed to take in order to arrive there in one piece.


The clasic blue, yellow, green and brown tiles (and Arabic script) that can be seen all over the palaces.

When I finally made it to the entry door of the Nasrid Palace (the starting point of any tour of the Alhambra) and the man who had told me earlier to go to the taquillas first to exchange the ticket I had printed off at a La Caixa ATM for an official ticket, . He recognized me from earlier and the tone of his voice as he said, "Vente amiga. Hay tiempo para todo," urged me to walk faster towards the ramp and into the magical palace that was just a few feet away.

As the barcode scanner passed over my ticket and beeped, I realized I had completed the final step of my journey. I was in. No one told me that I had arrived too late and had missed my entry time into the Alhambra. No one told me that I had bought the wrong ticket and that said ticket wouldn't allow me to enter. I was in and it was finally my turn.




And as I took my first steps down the path that lead to the main door, the tears came. And not in a soft and graceful way, but in a more intense, no-one-look-at-you kind of way. You know, the kind of tears you shed after you complete something very strenuous or you hear of bad news about something or someone that's very close to your heart. The kind of tears that ruin mascara and good makeup, haha.


Images and experiences of what it took for me to get there flashed before me: a flight from Santiago to Madrid, the Cercanias train from the airport to the Atocha station and a short walk to the bus station in Madrid, an overnight bus to Granada, a brief early morning check-in to my accommodations and then finally, a taxi up to the hilly area where the Alhambra palace is located. I had arrived. And I was finally seeing the beauty of this palace that I had dreamed of seeing for so, so long. I continued to cry and wipe my eyes as I walked into the first room of the Nasrid palace and I took in all of the tiles, designs and Arab architecture. I waited for a couple groups to pass by me and got my bearings. I had no idea what kind of a treat my eyes were in for later as I continued to make my way through all of the palaces and gardens that make up the Alhambra.

The sunrise I saw over the ancient Albaicín neighborhood earlier that day and the six hours total I spent on the grounds were more than worth my time. It was an experience that I'll remember for the rest of my life and while I will cherish it forever, I would not be opposed to visiting both the palace and the city again.

The Alhambra and Granada are two magical places that can't be replicated. And I must confess that I fell in love with the city in less than half a day. That´s a first for me! I'm so honored to have had the privilege to see them both and for the memories I made there. I know I'll be back for a visit and perhaps I'll cry then too or perhaps it is possible to visit the Alhambra with dry eyes. I'll have to find out if this is true! ;-)

Monday, February 29, 2016

The Most Epic ¨How I Almost Missed A (Insert Mode of Transportation Here).....¨ Stories

If you know me outside of the blogosphere, you´ll know that I have a habit of being late. It doesn´t matter what for or why, I am simply always late. The long answer can be found (and deduced) in this blog post but the short answer is this: I love to wake up early and get a head start on the day but I move slow in the mornings (and often over-thinking everything). This translates to me arriving late to almost everything under the sun: movie theaters, restaurants, bus stops, train stations, airports and even my own parents´ or grandparents´ house for dinner, haha. It´s like I have this insatiable desire to see just how close I can arrive to the time before a movie starts without me or before a train decides to leave me in its dust at the station.

I´ve been traveling internationally off-and-on for almost 10 years and you would think that I would have a set routine or schedule when it comes to traveling but I honestly don´t. I have packing a suitcase down to a science yet I can´t seem to do the same for the actual travel part. The most important aspect of traveling (minus the experience itself) in most people´s opinions.

As much as I try to break the habit or simply take baby steps to be more punctual, the whole being late thing seems to go well with my lifestyle so why change? It also doesn't help that the Spanish culture in which I live is more laid-back and most of the events, parties and activities (even movies sometimes!) are known to start late (sometimes 2-3 hours late). One of the most ironic things about this culture; however, is that the trains -all around the country- leave at the exact time the schedules say they are going to leave. And once the doors whoosh shut, not a single soul can get on or get off said train. Or can they...?

(Disclaimer: Don´t try these methods at home or in another country. I can´t guarantee any of them to work. And I don´t want any of you to get angry with me for having tried one and it not working. But you guys still might get mad at me anyway because of how lucky I´ve been when I´m late. And I´ve had plenty of times where I haven´t been lucky - don´t worry.)

Come take a little trip down memory lane with me as I recount three experiences where I should have missed a city bus, a regional bus and then, most recently, a train but didn't!

1. Catching a city bus in Jacksonville, Florida that was running on a detour route and on a Sunday (a slow day)

2. Being the second to last person to board a bus in Madrid heading to A Coruña after a spring break trip with my brother

3. Making it onto a train from Ourense to Santiago at night and after I spent the afternoon at the nearby thermal hot springs.

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

My 2015 in Partly Foreign Words (Parte Uno)

The format of this post was inspired by a similar one I read in the beginning of 2015 by a former auxiliar and fellow blogger, Jenny Marshall at A Thing for Words. You can check out her post here. I'm in no way endorsing her blog or writing this post as to copy it word for word. I merely liked the style and wanted to thank her for giving me inspiration to come up with a list of words on my own. A list of words that defined 2015 for me and what I've learned throughout the year. And naturally as I made my way through the year, mentally retracing old footprints and adventures past, I realized that I could split this review into two posts to make it more digestible for my readers. So, are you ready to join me on this linguistic journey? Venga, vamos!


Cabalgata in Coruña January 2015


January: cabalgata. Language: Spanish. Meaning: Three Kings Parade


I rang in 2015 with a couple of friends in A Coruña and we went to a couple of bars in and around the beach that night. It was one of the best New Year’s Eve/Day celebrations I’ve ever had but the celebrations continued a few days later. In Spain (and a few other countries), they celebrate the Epiphany (or the coming of the Three Kings or los Reyes Magos) and that day is always January 6th. Most children all around the country wait for the Three Kings to visit their house the night of the 5th and put gifts in their shoes or in their room. To an outsider, the holiday may seem like a second Christmas and it is in some respects. A lot of children are more excited about Reyes than they are Christmas Day - it's true!


Roscón de Reyes in all its glory - with a hidden king figurine and bean inside!


However, the Three Kings Day has its own traditions that make it distinct from Christmas. One of those traditions is to watch a parade of floats from local organizations and see volunteers dressed up as the Three Kings (insert names here) throw out candy for children and adults alike to catch and enjoy. Before my friends and I found a good place to watch the parade, we picked up some chocolate covered churros to enjoy while we waited. And then the following day, I went to the pastor and his wife's house to enjoy the traditional dessert of the Three Kings (sweet brioche roll with a sugar garnish) with hot thick chocolate. It’s no wonder why I got sick that month but thankfully during the middle of the month, I made a vow to eat less sugar for the rest of 2015. Surprisingly I stayed true to that vow for the majority of the year (minus holiday and birthday celebrations) and I'm really proud of that!

Playing new card games with friends on a holiday is also fun!

February: ciclogénesis. Language: Spanish. Meaning: storm with gale force winds (similar to a tropical storm where you will indeed get blown off the sidewalk if you're not careful, haha)

The beach is beautiful in any season and in any weather.

My first winter in the infamously rainy region of Galicia did not disappoint, though it wasn’t as rainy as most winters usually are. Or at least that’s what the locals told me. In the fall I learned the word temporal and quickly learned that those always bring a lot of wind into the area along with a lot of rain. You know, the kind of rain that will last all day and all night.

Some cities even look more beautiful in the rain I've learned....

What I did not expect (or prepare myself for) was to see hail at any time during the month of February! Yes. I’ve seen a lot of weird weather in my life thus far and I’ve lived through three or four tropical storms (no hurricanes, however, thank God) that have brought tremendous wind and rain but I didn’t expect this. The air during a temporal or ciclogénesis is warm but the hail is so cold and if it hits you just right, it can almost cut through your skin like a sharp knife. (Or hit you smack dab in the middle of your face if you don’t properly take cover as you walk up a hill in it, haha)

Rain is still rain though - and it's often rained on me a lot here!

The strength of the winds in these types of storms is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced either. A friend and I were walking to a cultural center to see a local documentary on the Camino de Santiago and took the side street where it’s located. Little did we know that we would pass a couple of open spaces (where there are no tall buildings) and that the wind cut sharply through us even to our bones and almost pick us up and carry us away. And that gust of wind was so cold, too! I hardly ever say it's cold here but that time I was cold! Dressing in layers was something I learned from living in Florida except in the case of Galician towns and cities, putting more clothes on your body can only help you, not hurt you! haha
At the end of the month I went to see a different kind of precipitation:
snow!

March: melhor. Language: Portuguese. Meaning: better

I always recommend people weight lift olive oil bottles to rid themselves of jet lag!

I’ll let my pictures for this word say more than what I can express. Needless to say, this month was one of my best months abroad last year. It was full of cultural and linguistic experiences and a special visit from my older brother!

Spring had also finally arrived to rainy Northern Spain. The trees were starting to sprout new leaves, flowers began to bloom and birds began to stick around longer and sing us melodic songs in the mornings. And, for my brother’s sake, most of the month was sunny and dry. Except the afternoon we finally were able to go see the castle in Coruña it poured down rain. What made things worse was that we had to fight with nature to try and save our respective umbrellas from the cruel and gusty winds.


Luckily he had plenty of Spanish and Portuguese coffee to keep him warm
 (and alive)!

Nevertheless, we survived and had a great time together, save for one little argument in the middle of the historic center of Toledo. :P One of the best times during that month for me personally was being able to act as an interpreter and translator for my brother in the beautiful and charming city of Oporto, Portugal. (It was the second visit for me but the first one with nothing but rain and cloudy weather!) Thank God he already spoke Spanish and didn’t need much help in Spain. Whew...


A beautiful view of Toledo from the main street

In Portugal, he forced me to use my sometimes broken Portuguese to ask questions and get directions or get clarification from locals. At times, I came in really handy for the both of us and I was glad that I could help my brother in this way, after he had helped me countless times before. It was also good practice for me but what I shouldn’t have done was translate the Portuguese we were hearing and reading to BOTH English and Spanish. I got a bit carried away with the interpreting and after our second day there, I fell into my bed at the hostel completely exhausted and slept with my clothes on that night, haha! The reason why I over-interpreted was because I was simply so excited for my brother and me to be in Portugal and hearing the language together for the very first time.



So much love for Portugal and all their hand painted tiles!

It really was o melhor.


April: pa’lla. Language: Andalú -dialect of Castilian Spanish. Meaning: over there

In Córdoba in front of a restaurant with an exceptional name (¨translation: go over there, way over there!)
I started the month of April off in the Central and Southern parts of the country. It was actually the second month in a row that I was in the enchanting region of Andalucía, where my love affair with this country first began.

Andalusians are the butt of most of the jokes Spaniards make—not all— and it is usually the first region that comes to a Spaniard’s mind if you are talking about regional and linguistic differences with them. Regardless of their reputation and dialect, it is one of the few places in the world where I am happiest and feel like I am at home. Every time I’ve returned to Andalucía, whether it's Sevilla, Córdoba, Málaga or any other city or town, my heart soars and I turn into a little girl who is eagerly awaiting Christmas morning. I absolutely love this part of Spain and always will. (I didn’t choose to work there due to complications and rumored delays with paychecks—and those rumors are true.)

Whenever I miss the south I make or go order a traditional breakfast like this one:
tostas (toast) with tomate (pureed tomato) and olive oil with tea and fresh squeezed orange juice.

Thousands of international students come to Sevilla and the rest of the region to study each year. Not everyone –foreign or national—can understand the way the locals speak, let alone learn how to speak Spanish well but I was one of the fortunate ones who succeeded. I originally thought the accent was ugly and that the Andalusians had a lisp but I changed my tune after I met some of the most wonderful people from different parts of Sevilla and Andalucía. The accent suddenly became beautiful to me the more I spent time with those beautiful people. It’s funny how quickly opinions can change in a such a short period of time.

Now English speakers can understand a little bit of what this wonderful part of Spain says!


Now, I won’t lie and say that I understand every word that comes out of the mouth of an Andalusian person. In fact, the more time away I spend from the region, the harder it is initially to tune my ear back to the accent. Which is why I have to listen to Andalusian singers or watch TV shows or videos with Andalusian actors sometimes. (Or talk to some of my Sevillian friends!)

I love how diverse Spain is and how cultural surprises are almost around every corner. What’s more, I love how you can live in one part of the country and then move to another part of it and have a completely different experience. And, as I love to play around with my native language, I love that the Andalusians do something similar with their own accent and dialect.

May: igrexa. Language: Galician. Meaning: church

This rose garden reminded me of the roses that would bloom in
my mother's flower beds at my childhood home. :)
 
 April brought thousands of rain drops (en abril aguas mil) in Galicia but we all reaped the benefits later on in May. The weather was fantastic and flowers were blooming everywhere – especially in the rose garden at my school that year.

I also made it to my first ever soccer (football) game and saw Real Deportivo play
(and save their spot in their league). :P

I also personally had one of the best surprise trips of my life that month. And it involved visiting a friend’s church (which I had originally thought was only his grandparents’ church) one random weekend in a nearby city. The weekend three friends and I visited the thermal baths in Ourense for the first time was the weekend for Mother’s Day in Spain, the baptism of an English language assistant at the church and part of a four day weekend for us working in Coruña. And to top it off, I met an old friend of my Galician friend in the States and surprised the pants off him when I dropped my friend’s name at a lunch we were invited to. As much as I want to chalk it all up to coincidence, I can’t bring myself to that conclusion. It truly was an amazing –albeit short—and culturally enriching weekend. I couldn’t have orchestrated a better weekend and I know that it was only through God working behind the scenes that it happened.


Funny thing is, when my friend and I entered the church, I was nervous that everyone there only spoke Galician, including the pastor. And my other nagging thought was that, “What kind of impression will I make on my friend’s grandparents if I can’t even speak their language?” I was really worried for nothing but the name of the church was indeed in Galician so what’s a guiri (foreigner) supposed to think?

June: hoguera. Language: Spanish. Meaning: bonfire

Does this look fun or crazy to you?...
The month of June ushered in some fantastic weather and a couple of opportunities for me to travel around Spain. And it was also the month that cities all around Spain celebrated the infamous Dia de San Juan. I personally had been hearing about it all school year from teachers, friends, church members, shop keepers, my students, random people who struck up conversations with me (or vice versa) – you name it: anyone who had seen it at least once before took it upon themselves to spread the word.
This wasn’t a small celebration in the city, they celebrate things BIG in Coruña! The official holiday is June 24th  but on the night of the 23rd, crowds of locals and visitors alike gather on the beach to light bonfires –some of the biggest I’ve EVER seen!-, watch fireworks, go to concerts and hang out with friends and family. Unfortunately nowadays, it’s a big outdoor cocktail party or rager for young people. It’s become (or maybe it always was?) an excuse to drink a ton with your friends and then jump over small bonfires for good luck.


Because alcohol and fire are two safe things that go together, right? Didn’t think so, haha.


It was fun to jump over a little fire myself for good luck - as a part of the festival's tradition

It was certainly an experience and one I’m glad I had. I may go to another San Juan festival again or I may not after having lived to tell the tale. Plus, the poor city workers of La Coruña are tasked with the difficult job of cleaning up the beaches after the big party. However, they do get a little bit of help from the animal kingdom. What I did not realize was that the day after San Juan is a smorgasbord for any seagull within flying distance of the region. I didn’t see all of the seagulls feasting on all the “deliciously” disgusting trash that party-goers had left but I saw the thousands of tiny little seagull footprints that were left behind. It was quite a sight to see the beaches all lit up with the bonfires but it was equally impressive to see the party cleaned up the next day. What I really didn’t like on either day was that the entire city filled up with smoke from the bonfires and it took a full day for it to exit the city.

I also paid a visit to the city where I would be moving to for the next school year -
Santiago de Compostela :)


So…maybe I’ll stay clear of Coruña this upcoming summer. We shall see what happens!

(Stay tuned for part two...)

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Top 5 Most Embarrassing Moments of 2015

If you've been following my blog for a couple years or know me in person, you know that I often find myself in some pretty hilarious and tricky predicaments - both on purpose and accidentally. In the past year, however, I have managed to walk into all of the following situations on accident and some of them were highly coincidental. Others felt like something out of a movie but oh, no...they were certainly real. Each one provided me with an opportunity to feel extremely embarrassed in the moment and then to laugh about it in the next one. All of these crazy moments gave me the chance to laugh at myself (or the situation around me) and not take myself too seriously. And, the longer I live abroad and take time to travel and leave my comfort zone, the more I think about all these funny moments and laugh even harder about them as time goes on.

So, without further ado, I give you permission to laugh at and enjoy a few of the many hilarious things that happened to me in 2015. I've laughed at myself about these already so just know that I was laughing about them again while reminiscing and writing this post. Life abroad and travel are not all sunshine and rainbows everyday and some days are downright awful or problematic. We all live this thing called life and that's how it is - no matter where you live on this big, beautiful globe. Take a moment to appreciate the funny moments in life and learn from them. That's what I try to do. :)

5.

Where: Budapest, Hungary

When: December 28th, 2015


There's a reason why most people only tend
to stroll by the river and not eat by it. I learned the hard way.


What happened: 

On the train to Budapest that morning from Bratislava (where I was staying), I had a very small breakfast and so after walking around Budapest a little bit and wandering over to the river, I was hungry. It wasn't exactly lunchtime by Hungarian standards -or so I assumed- so I decided to finish eating the snacks my friend was kind enough to pack for me before I left for my day trip.

After taking a few pictures of the apple with the Pest side of Budapest in the background, which you can see here, I finally started eating it and enjoying the sunshine that had peaked out of the blanket-like fog. The temperature was at about freezing (in Celsius) so my hands were turning into blocks of ice while I ate it but I didn't mind. The rays of the sun and countless passersby (read: enormous waves of tourists) helped keep my mind off of the cold and allowed me to enjoy the whole experience. And since so many people were passing by my bench, I didn't think it was strange when I heard a tiny clinking sound and felt someone (or something) plop down next to me on the bench, I finished chewing a bite of the apple (which I was just about to get up and go throw it away) and swiveled my head over to the right - in the direction of the movement. My eyes widened and I choked back a laugh at the sight of a large crow sitting on the top of the bench pointedly staring at the juicy remains of the apple in my hand.

I panicked and repeated the phrase, "Oh, my gosh," over and over again and glancing all around me before quickly decided to throw the apple towards the rocks near the river. The crow took off like a shot and dove down to get the apple and flew it up to the tall, thin lamp post near the bench. It happily munched on the remains of the apple and then went on its merry way. I believe that crow (and all the other birds flying around or near the river) was desperately hungry for any kind of morsel of food as it didn't look like anyone in the area made a habit of feeding them.


How breathtaking is this view, though?

And in hindsight, throwing my apple on the ground and letting a bird eat it wasn't the best of ideas. However, I saw how focused its attention was on my apple and imagined it following me over to the trash can and attacking me further. So, to not cause a scene or draw more attention to myself on that cold sunny day, I decided to let the bird have it. After all, he (and many other things) helped make my day in Budapest very memorable. (Thanks, you crazy old Hungarian crow. Now I've got a great story, too!)


4.

Where: A Coruña, Spain

When: May 2015

I don't know about you but I prefer drawing and reading about people with clothes on....
What happened: 

I was left unsupervised in an entire 3rd grade (3A) art class (which I assisted with weekly with a head English teacher) one afternoon and the kids went out of control. One student decided that that moment -without a main teacher in the room- was the perfect moment to find a science book that he had read before and look for nude drawings in it. He grabbed the book from the bookshelf in the back of the classroom I imagined and took it back to another student's desk. (He had recently been assigned to sit in the front corner of the classroom so that's another thing about the situation that seemed fishy to me.)

As a small group of students began to crowd around him, and started laughing, I realized that he was looking at something that he wasn't supposed to be looking at. I was helping a couple of students with the project they were working on but I knew I had to walk over there and see what was going on. I approached the desk he was sitting at and saw that there was a drawing of a naked woman with big breasts on that page. The boy started lifted up his shirt from the neck and started looking underneath it and asked out loud in Spanish, "Dónde están mis tetas? Dónde están? (Roughly: Where are my breasts/tits? Where are they?) At that point -with my face flushed and eyes wide- I grabbed the book from his desk, threw it back into the bookshelf (I usually am very careful about how I treat books but I didn't care much for this one at the time, haha) and told him to go back to his seat. I said it in English but as I knew he wouldn't understand me, I reiterated it in Spanish. "Véte, véte, Saul." Dónde? "A tu sitio!" (To your spot/seat.)

This may be one of just a handful of times that I will get angry and turn into an wicked teacher in my career -however long this overseas teaching career will last me- but this is probably my funniest experience to date. And since I'm expected to speak in English the entire time (save a few words here and there to help with comprehension) at the schools I work in, having those students hear me not only yell for the first time ever but also do it Spanish, instilled some fear in them. Who knew that soft-spoken and slow to speak Sarah was capable of instilling fear in a small group of Spanish elementary students?

I didn't know I had it in me either. :P

3.

Where: Santiago de Compostela, Spain

When: October/November 2015

Thankfully the incident didn't occur in this bar cause I love its name!

What happened:

I decided to go out with a couple new friends and go listen to some traditional music at a local bar. After being there for only thirty minutes -and finding out that the band cancelled last minute- I was still having a nice time and was standing around near the bar stools with my friends. A older man comes up from behind me and stands next to me. (I'm standing parallel to the wall with my back to the door.) After making eye contact with me (and then almost staring a conversation with me), he awkwardly reaches over and touches one of my butt cheeks! Just one AND keeps his hand there for a few seconds before it dawned on me what was actually going on, as the bar was quite crowded and small. He claimed that two young guys who were hanging out at the entrance of the bar saw me and thought that I had a nice butt and dared that man to go touch it. (Who does that?!)

It's kind of a miracle that I didn't get angry and start yelling at the man or go over and yell at the guys who propositioned him to do it. On the other hand, I wished the floor would have opened up and swallowed me whole instead of having to have stood there and dealt with that very, very, VERY awkward social situation that I had suddenly found myself in that night. It would have been a tiny bit less awkward had the man not made eye contact with me before he touched me back there. Maybe, haha.


Not even wine could fix that night, folks. (Wine glasses at a tasting in the Ribera del Duero wine region)

My friends barely knew what had happened to me because their attention was focused on ordering another drink. When a couple of them got back to our spot, they saw me talking to this old man who said, "No te pongas rojo," a couple times to me as he explained why he did what he did. He excused himself after that by bluntly saying, "Voy a mear," (Roughly: I have to go take a whiz/leak) like the "gentleman" that he was. After he left, I filled my friends in on what happened and how I probably caught their attention by leaning against this beer shelf/holder that we were standing by. I told them that when I stand I naturally lean to one side or the other and that stance makes my already attractive butt even more prominent (it's true, haha). I caught the attention of a couple guys that night but they were too cowardly to come over to me and say anything to my face and instead sent someone else to indirectly do their bidding. I also didn't want to cause a scene, I told my friends, so that's why I didn't feel it was necessary to get angry at the old man even though he was a bit of a pervert.

And on my walk back home to my flat that night, all I could think about was how disgusting that whole situation was (though it wasn't the first time it had happened overall but that's a long story) and how I just wanted to wash those jeans. As I walked up to the main door of my apartment, however, I found a 5 euro note laying in front of the door! I pulled out my keys and put them over it and picked it all up together (as there were a couple of people behind me wanting to enter the building too). The night didn't start off well but it sure had a nice, happy ending! (For me at least.) And it helped me forget about what was mostly an awful night out within a matter of minutes, haha.

2.

Where: Barcelona, Spain

When: September 25th, 2015

Barceloneta Beach at night (where most people go fully clothed)

What happened: 

I spent a few days in Barcelona before returning to Galicia for another year to teach English but this time in a new town. I needed a few days to relax and readjust to the time zone again as well as taking advantage of seeing more of Barcelona in warmer weather. I had also met a Spanish teacher in my aunt and uncle's city in the States over the summer and she suggested I stay with her daughter for a few days when I flew back. I did stay there for free but I spoke English with her daughter (who is practically my age) almost all of the time and got a taste of what authentic Catalan culture is like.

I spent my last full day there visiting places near the outskirts of city like Parc Güell and Barceloneta Beach. I asked friends online for advice on what to see if it were their last day in Barcelona and someone suggested I visit the secret nude section of Barceloneta just for fun.

Well, I didn't plan on going to it but I did accidentally find that nude part of the beach and it wasn't so bad. I arrived around twilight and found a spot to lay out my towel and sit for a few minutes watching the colors of the sky go from a dark blue to almost pitch black with only the twinkling lights of the stars and cruise ships to light up the ocean view in front of me. And the glaring lights of the street lamps behind me that bikers, roller skaters and passersby used to take advantage of the pleasant weather and go for a stroll or a quick bout of exercise. It was really a nice night to be out at the beach.

A few minutes go by and suddenly the noise level on the beach increased. I noticed that the people around me were staring out at the ocean and talking among themselves. Then...I realized that a very tan, middle aged guy near the shore didn't have any clothes on! I could have sworn I saw him earlier and I knew he had had clothes on a few minutes earlier. But, then all of a sudden he decided to take 'em all off!

I brought both hands up to my forehead and covered my eyes all the while shaking my head at the same time. I had tried so hard to avoid the nude part of the beach and lo and behold I found it anyway! That didn't stop me from enjoying the beach and the fresh sea air, though. I still decided that I was going to get my feet wet in the ocean and walk alongside the shore. So, I made sure to keep a considerable distance away from this man and I had a nice time walking along the beach, enjoying the gentle waves and moonlight.

Everything was going just fine, until I realized that on my walk back to the towel, the naked man was less than 50 feet away from me. And higher up on the sand than I was. He was gazing out at the ocean himself oblivious to everyone else around him. I had no choice but to pass by him and I did so by looking out towards the ocean and praying that he didn't come near me. At the same time, my face was beet red (thank goodness it was dark!) and I had to cover my mouth to keep myself from laughing at how awkward this situation was -or could have become.

I survived and while nothing directly embarrassing happened to me this time, I guess I was more embarrassed for this man since he was out in public. At any rate, I'm going to pay more attention the next time I visit Barceloneta (if I don't go to better beaches along the Costa Brava) and make sure I don't go back to this spot in the daytime. :P


And what was probably the most embarrassing experience of them all and of the past decade is the following story. I managed to handle it well after it happened but due to the sheer number of people I saw in both airports, on the plane and later on the metro, this had to have been my most uncomfortable travel experience to date. I laugh at it now but I was mortified in the moment! (And had only brought one pair of jeans for my trip. So...here's the full story:

1.

Where: Santiago de Compostela Airport (Spain)

When: June 17th, 2015

I promise I'm house trained, haha....

What happened:

I planned to go to Madrid for a long weekend a couple weeks before I flew back to the States for the summer. I was meeting up with a new friend and she was going to show me around the city and help me cross a few touristy things off my list that I hadn't been able to do yet. As well as explore ¨off the beaten path¨ locations and hidden corners of Madrid that only long-time city dwellers know about (or really clever and ambitious ex-pats!).

I lived in A Coruña at the time so I had to take the train and then the airport bus before I could arrive to the airport itself. All the way to the airport in Santiago on the bus, I had an urge to go to the bathroom. I used the bathroom before I boarded my flight and well...see the above picture for more details. Long story short, I really needed to use the toilet and ended up missing the mark so to speak in the process, haha. And then I went and boarded a flight for an hour and a half to Madrid, the capital city of the country and a booming metropolis full of people, especially trendy and stylish young people.

To my advantage, and to save face, no one really noticed that part of my pan leg was wet and thanks to having scrubbed it with some soap and water (as well as a baby wipe), it dried and didn't smell after I got off the plane. I was super embarrassed in the moment but I had a flight to catch and later on a route on the metro to plan so I quickly forgot about the whole ordeal. I did remember to put the jeans in a plastic bag when I got to my friend's flat and thankfully had a pair of shorts that I wore for the rest of my 5 day trip.

Hey, at least I finally found this legendary spot and realized what it was finally!

And what's even worse is that while walking around Madrid in 100F+ weather for a few days, I managed to simultaneously get both a sunburn and a heat rash on my feet due to all the walking and sweating were doing. (And I didn't think to put sunscreen on my feet...go figure on that one!) Of all the times I had been to Madrid or only passed through via the airport, this time may have been one of my most memorable visits ever.

What was your most embarrassing moment while traveling or simply living life in 2015? Can you relate to any of the incidents that happened to me last year? Share your stories below in the comments!

Saturday, January 16, 2016

Reflections on Being 26


1. I prefer the window seat.

Sometimes the view is much better than you could have ever
 imagined it to be in the first place.


That's only one example of the numerous things that I like. I listed a simple thing I like to emphasize that I now know what I like. I have spent a lot of time away from home and a lot of time on my own. I now have a good handle on what my likes and dislikes are. I'm still very much open to change and trying new things - I love trying new foods especially. However, I am fairly confident in what I do and do not like. I've lived in different cities and countries during my twenties and I've been exposed to a various geographical locations, cultures, lifestyles, cuisines, beliefs, etc. I don't always get what I want but I do know what it is I want. I've managed to keep a good head on my shoulders and focus on my own passions and interests. There were a few times that I got distracted and tried to fit into other crowds (mainly the popular crowd) and do things that weren't necessarily wrong but rather things I simply did not enjoy.
I've learned my lesson and now I only pursue things that I enjoy and that make me happy. I do them to simply make myself happy and not to please other people around me. That mindset unfortunately only leads to unhappiness - and the only way to learn that it doesn't work is the hard way.

2. I love being an early bird.

And I need my morning cuppa tea. These are really the only things I'm serious about, haha.


What can I say? I like a good old fashioned routine. I don't necessarily need to wake up at the same time everyday - though it does help - but I need a few things in my life that I can count on, and a routine is one of them. I like showering and cleaning the apartment on the same days. I like to have one day where I take things slow. I like to have an afternoon or two set aside for writing. And if possible, I like to have a day where I regularly hang out with a friend or two and that day is usually Sunday. Though I love the hustle and bustle of city life and the thrill that traveling to a new country or city brings, I love peace and quiet more. I like to be alone to think and write about my observations of the world around me. The great thing about being the only one who's awake in the house or apartment is the blissful silence you can enjoy before the day gets underway. I imagine I will continue living like this and enjoying the silence when I become a mom one day - because those moments of pure silence will be few and far between in the future. For the moment, however, I will enjoy the routine I have but will continue to keep an open mind towards change and look for ways to make my days more efficient and filled with life.


3. I don't use swear words.

Words are very powerful so be careful how you use them.

Not only does swearing go against my beliefs as a Christian, I simply don't like swear words...in any language. And I know a few but don't ask me to teach you any. I've learned over the years that words have a strong effect on me but I didn't really know just how strong of an effect they had until I moved overseas for a long period of time.

In a way I've become desensitized to them as I hear people from all parts of the world use them frequently - in my native language or their own. I'm also very intellectual and to be honest, swearing in a negative way because you stubbed your toe or swearing in a positive way because you found a great deal on a cute dress at Macy's or Zara, makes you sound uneducated and unintelligent. It simply does.

The last thing I want to come across as is stupid or ignorant so I choose not to swear. And the worst thing is, when someone strings a sentence together that's full of swear words...it's as if they're saying virtually nothing. I don't know about you but I think about and choose my words carefully. That's why I pause a few times while I'm having a conversation or look off into the distance - it's because I'm thinking about the words I want to say and in the order I want to say them. Most of the time when I speak or add something to a conversation, it's because I have good reason to do so. Sure, I'm also human and I would be just as likely to have a slip of the tongue and mutter or scream a bad work when something awful happens. However, the habit of swearing never became a habit for me...so it's not something I have to work on breaking or changing. It feels more awkward for me to say the words instead of having to refrain from saying them. So, in a way, you could say that I would be the ideal friend or girlfriend to introduce to someone's parents. :P


4. An attractive mind is much more appealing than an attractive body.

Billboard in A Coruña. What can I say? This country has a lot of attractive men!

This lesson certainly threw me for a loop this past year. I do appreciate a well-dressed and attractive man just as much as the next woman. However, I wasn't honest with myself for a while just what type of man attracts me. I've officially come to terms with how there is a type of man that physically appeals to me more than any other type (read: Latin and Iberian men) but in reality this was nothing new, though something I denied for years. I didn't necessarily come to terms with it this past year but rather realized that that is the one type of man that I truly go crazy for. I admitted the truth to myself somewhere around the age of 20 or 21 but still wasn't sure if that was my "type" so to speak.

Well, a few years later, I learned that my type is also the intellectual guys. And this type doesn't always look drop dead gorgeous...but that's okay. After meeting a few different people with varying personalities, I realized that if I can't have a good, deep conversation with a man or talk about my crazy dreams for the future (or the ones I had the night before), then we aren't compatible. I will get bored with him so quickly and I will want to move on to the next best thing. This thought initially surprised the pants off me when I first came to the realization that it was true.

In years past I was so focused on looks -though I swore that I wasn't focusing on them- that I could go throughout the day and have imagined myself "being" with a dozen different guys. Up until the beginning of 2015 I was always looking and "shopping" for the next cutest guy. I only did this with my eyes and imagination of course but in the end I was left feeling very disillusioned and still far, far away from finding Mr. Right. I vowed from then on that I wouldn't let my eyes wander and imagine myself being the girlfriend of every cute guy who happened to turn my head. Instead I would focus on the guys whom I met in bars or cafes or through friends. The guys I was actually having conversations with and getting to know on a less superficial level. Wow, had I done this years ago I would have saved myself a lot of inner turmoil and personal grief. This aspect of life is so much easier to manage when you just let things happen naturally.


5. I don't have any ex-boyfriends. (And I don't have a current boyfriend either. Hmm...)

That doesn't mean that I haven't casually dates at the very least and I have. However, I haven't found a man whom - in my eyes- I'd deem worthy of my time, love and devotion and who wanted to be with me too. In fact, the times I have tried to get into a relationship, I was the one who put myself out there and shared my feelings. Each time, the feelings were not mutual and I got rejected. And that hurt - believe me that hurt. It felt like getting my heart physically ripped out of my chest but I've become stronger with each rejection. It's a part of life and a part that we often try to downplay and hide because of the pain it brings. I do hold onto the hope that I have that there is someone out there who won't reject my affections for them but will instead welcome them with open arms and will also confess his feelings to me. It hasn't happened yet for a number of reasons and this year I decided to focus on a different aspect of life: the silver lining of being single.



A few days before Valentine's Day this past year I was walking home from teaching at the school and a profound thought pierced my mind like a knife: I'm no one's ex-girlfriend. No one has had their heart painfully and selfishly broken by me. No one harbors a grudge or dumps their hatred on me because I spit on their love and rejected it. At that moment, I realized I had been looking at my love life all wrong for over 10 years. I was focusing on the fact how in today's society, it's so strange and uncommon that I've never had a boyfriend before. Instead, I should have been focusing on not how I have not been someone's ex. So many relationships go sour and painfully end. Or the two partners realize that they must continue on in life but must go their separate ways. And while this is true and heartbreak -whatever degree of it that you experience-does suck. However, the heartbreak that you avoid could be so much better than you realize it could be. If I've learned anything during my 26 years, it's this: it's better to be alone than be wishing yourself out of a bad relationship. I never realized how grateful I should have been for all the times I heard the answer, "No." Regardless, I'm still eager and anxious to meet the one who will finally say yes to me. I haven't lost hope that one day I will find him.


6. I need to read the Bible and pray in English.

This one is pretty straightforward: if I can't have access to a Bible in English, I won't feel as motivated or passionate about life and what God desires me to do with my life. Reading the Bible and singing songs of praise in multiple languages is wonderful but there is nothing like talking to and praising God in you own language, in my opinion. And though I often joke saying I don't need to speak English as much as other native teachers around me seem to need it, this is the one thing in English that I absolutely need. If I didn't have access to a Bible in English or lost my abilities to comprehend and speak the language, life would lose its splendor for me.


7. In the midst of my own pursuit of personal happiness, I recognized that I also desire to see my friends and family happy.

Sometimes I want this more than I want myself to be happy. Is that a sign of true maturity and being an adult? (It's kind of scary and surprising to me at times...but it's how I feel.)




8. For the first time in my life, I accepted all of myself -both the good and bad, my talents, my flaws- for who I am and I learned how to love myself fully.

When I finally meet my special someone, I can not only be happy to be with him but also be proud of the person I'm offering to him. I have fought, struggled and gone through trial after trial to become the woman I am today. And you know what? I'm proud to be her.

One of the places in the world where I am myself and at my happiest - an ice skating rink!